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How do I Handle a Protective Order, a Restraining Order, and DCF involvement in Our Marriage when She Says She’s Supporting me, but it doesn’t feel like it?

Dear Attorneys,

I am currently married and do not plan to file for divorce. However, I do have a protective order against me, and my wife decided to also file for a restraining order as well.  Now DCF is also involved. My wife says she is trying to support me, but it doesn’t feel like it. What do I do?


Stuck Spouse

Dear Stuck,

First and foremost, we want to acknowledge the difficult situation you’re facing. Dealing with protective orders, restraining orders, and involvement from agencies like the Department of Children and Families (DCF) can be incredibly stressful and overwhelming, especially when it involves your marital relationship.

It’s understandable that you may feel confused and uncertain about how to navigate this situation, especially when your spouse claims to be supporting you, but their actions don’t align with those words. In times like these, it’s essential to prioritize your well-being and seek the guidance of experienced legal professionals who can help you understand your rights and options.

Here are some steps you can consider taking:

1.Consult with an Attorney: You should already have a criminal defense attorney if there is a protective order in place.  Now, you should schedule a consultation with a qualified attorney who focuses on family law and has experience domestic violence and juvenile law/DCF matters. They can provide you with personalized legal advice based on the specifics of your situation and help you understand the implications of the protective order and restraining order.

2. Gather Documentation: Take stock of any relevant documentation or evidence that may support your case. This could include communication records, witness statements, or any other evidence that sheds light on the circumstances surrounding the protective order and restraining order.

3. Follow Legal Proceedings: It’s crucial to comply with any legal proceedings related to the protective order and restraining order. Failure to do so could have serious consequences. Your attorney can guide you through the legal process and advocate on your behalf in court.

4. Prioritize Self-Care: Dealing with legal issues and strained relationships can take a toll on your emotional well-being. Make self-care a priority by seeking support from trusted friends and family members, practicing stress-relief techniques, and considering counseling or therapy if needed.

5. Cooperate with DCF: If DCF is involved, cooperate with their investigation, and follow any recommendations or requirements they may have. Your cooperation will demonstrate your commitment to ensuring the safety and well-being of your children and truly show that your focus is on them.

Remember, you don’t have to navigate this challenging situation alone. Seek support from experienced professionals who can guide you through the legal process and help you make informed decisions. Wolf & Shore Law Group is here to help you make your family law matters easier, not harder.  We are realistic and direct with our clients. We encourage potential clients to seek out a firm where they will feel comfortable and confident. Ever argue with a woman? Let Wolf & Shore Law Group go to work for you. Call us at 203.745.3151 or email us at

Very Truly Yours,

Wolf & Shore Law Group

*The situations represented in our Dear Attorneys column are entirely fictional and any resemblance to a specific case is unintentional. We cannot, and will not, offer legal advice to anyone who is not a client. However, if you do have questions or concerns, you should contact an attorney at your convenience.

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