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What is Non-Adversarial Divorce?


Non-adversarial divorce can actually mean two things.  The Connecticut judicial website defines it as “a simplified process by which eligible parties can obtain a divorce within 35 days without having to come to court and appear before a judge.” This is often what clients want when they tell us they want a “quickie” divorce. Specific criteria must be met in order to have this type of divorce as there cannot be any children involved or a substantial amount of assets. However, if you want a “quickie” divorce but have children in common, and/or a substantial amount of assets, you can still waive the 90 day “waiting period,” and essentially just negotiate outside of court to reach a final agreement.


In the alternative, non-adversarial divorce can be defined as method or process in which to approach you divorce. Specifically, it would include the processes of mediation or collaborative divorce. In addition to negotiations and litigation, Wolf & Shore Law Group does offer non-adversarial approaches to divorce, including mediation (for which both Attorneys Wolf and Shore have certifications), and collaborative divorce (which Attorney Wolf has become certified in after extensive training).

Mediation is a process in which both parties in a dissolution matter retain a neutral third-party as their mediator. This process is beneficial for parties that essentially agree on the major concepts of the divorce, but are looking for some assistance in ironing out a few details and/or drafting the final agreement. However, it is always suggested that parties going through mediation also obtain his or her own review counsel prior to filing a final agreement to ensure that the individual party is protected and all pertinent issues are addressed.


Collaborative Divorce is a unique process that requires both parties to work together toward a common goal. Often, the focus is on how to address the best interest of the minor children while still reaching an equitable financial settlement.  Outside professionals are also a part of the collaborative divorce process. These professionals may include, but may not be limited to, a co-parenting counselor, therapist, financial advisor, accountant, business expert and/or additional professionals based upon the needs of the parties. Each party still has his or her own individual representation during the process, but the attorneys agree to work with each other and to not file litigation during the pendency of the collaborative process.

If you have any questions pertaining to filing for a non-adversarial divorce, or how to go about the mediation or collaborative divorce process, contact us and let Wolf & Shore Law Group go to work for you and help make your family law matter easier, not harder. Ever Argue with a Woman? Click here, call us at 203.745.315, or email us at

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