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Dear Attorneys,


When I was divorced, our Divorce Agreement indicated that if we had disputes about the parenting plan, we would have to meet with a mediator to try to address the issue(s) before returning to court. My friend had a similar agreement where they needed to meet with a co-parenting counselor. My ex-husband and I are currently disagreeing about which school system to enroll our children in. I contacted a co-parenting counselor and my ex said he won’t use the person because they are not a mediator. After doing some research, it appears that various attorneys handle mediation. Is this the same thing?



Mediating Megan

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Dear Megan,


Many (but not all) attorneys are also certified mediators. Often, an attorney will list mediation as a practice area under the family/matrimonial law category. That type of mediation is generally to work as a neutral third party (aka mediator) for two parties going through a divorce or custody matter. However, what you are describing is what we call “ad hoc mediation.” This type of mediation is exactly what it sounds like-we are available if two parties have a dispute. There is no formal mediation process, but when one of the parties contacts us (as we do have to be retained by both), then we will set up a mediation session (either in person or via Zoom) and we will work as a neutral third party with them on that specific issue to help them reach an agreement. Sometimes parties will use us once and never again, and other times, people use us a few times a year. We simply keep their matter open until they tell us that they no longer need our services.


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Wolf & Shore Law Group


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