Dear Attorneys,
What are some signs that my marriage is ending? I’m on the fence about divorce, but I think all the signs currently point to ‘yes.’
Sincerely,
Ending Enid
Dear Enid,
You are not alone! Many people find themselves in your position, wondering if the difficulties in their marriage are temporary or if they’re signs of a larger, possibly irreparable issue. While no one can make this decision for you, there are common indicators that a marriage may be on the path toward dissolution.
Here are some red flags that people often notice when a marriage may be nearing its end:
1. Communication has broken down.
If conversations frequently escalate into arguments, or worse—if you’re no longer talking at all—this can be a major warning sign. Healthy relationships rely on open, respectful communication. A lack of dialogue often leads to misunderstandings, resentment, and emotional disconnection.
2. There’s emotional or physical distance.
Do you feel more like roommates than spouses? If the emotional connection is gone, physical intimacy has significantly declined, or you find yourselves living separate lives under the same roof, it may indicate that the bond is no longer strong enough to sustain the marriage.
3. You feel indifferent.
Oddly enough, it’s not always anger that signals a relationship’s end—it’s indifference. If you no longer care enough to argue, problem-solve, or even engage with your partner’s emotions, it might be a sign that the relationship has run its course.
4. Trust is broken.
Whether it’s due to infidelity, dishonesty, or ongoing patterns of betrayal, once trust is broken, it can be difficult to rebuild. If you find yourself constantly suspicious or questioning your partner’s words or actions, that strain can erode even a long-standing marriage.
5. You’re already imagining life without your partner.
If you’re frequently thinking about what it would be like to live separately, fantasizing about a fresh start, or mentally preparing for life post-divorce, these thoughts may reflect a deep sense of dissatisfaction or a desire for change.
6. Efforts to improve the relationship aren’t working.
If you’ve tried couples therapy, honest discussions, or other efforts to reconnect, but nothing seems to improve, it might be time to consider whether continuing the relationship is emotionally healthy for either of you.
We know that considering divorce is never easy—it’s emotional, complex, and deeply personal. However, understanding the signs can help you make a more informed decision. Whether you ultimately decide to stay and work on your marriage or move toward separation, we encourage you to consult with professionals—such as therapists or experienced family law attorneys—who can help you navigate this process thoughtfully and with clarity. Wolf & Shore Law Group is here to help you make your family law matters easier, not harder. We are realistic and direct with our clients. We encourage potential clients to seek out a firm where they will feel comfortable and confident. Ever argue with a woman? Let Wolf & Shore Law Group go to work for you. Call us at 203.745.3151 or email us at info@wolfandshorelaw.com.
Very Truly Yours,
Wolf & Shore Law Group
*The situations represented in our Dear Attorneys column are entirely fictional and any resemblance to a specific case is unintentional. We cannot, and will not, offer legal advice to anyone who is not a client. However, if you do have questions or concerns, you should contact an attorney at your convenience.
