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Dear Attorneys,

I am really curious as to why my current attorney keeps telling me to “do the right thing.” My soon-to-be ex thinks she can do whatever she wants, but my lawyer keeps saying not to stoop to her level. Is this really going to help me? Why isn’t my wife’s lawyer telling her the same thing, then?


Perplexed Party


Dear Perplexed,

While no two attorneys practice exactly the same way, we would also tell you to take the “high road,” so to speak. Your wife’s attorney may not be advising her to do the same, or they might be, and she could just not be listening. With emotions running high, we know it’s easier said than done to be civil and calm.

However, you should look at it like this-if you do have to go in front of the judge, do you want your attorney to be able to showcase how you did what you were supposed to do? How you were financially responsible? How you upheld parenting responsibilities, etc? We tell clients to let the other party prove your case for you.  That means, instead of “slam campaigns,” do what you are supposed to do, remain in compliance with the automatic orders, and eventually, your soon-to-be ex’s true colors will likely show. This often gives you a “leg up” in the case because the judge will be able to see that you have been acting appropriately.

With over twenty years of combined experience, Attorneys Kristen Wolf & Shari-Lynn Cuomo Shore are attorneys you can trust, and who can assist you every step of the way. They are here to help make things easier for you, not harder.

Ever argue with a woman? Let Wolf & Shore Law Group go to work for you. Call us at 203.745.3151 or email us at

Very Truly Yours,

Wolf & Shore Law Group


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