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Dear Attorneys,

My attorney keeps telling me to “act in good faith.” I feel like I have been, but my soon-to-be-ex wife has not. Why should I keep doing the “right thing” then?


Righteous Ralph

Dear Ralph,

We understand how frustrating it is when you are trying to do the “right thing” and the other party just can’t seem to meet you halfway. We often give our clients this advice as well. The main reason behind it is that if you continually do the right thing (putting your children first, trying to be fair, disclosing your financial information, cooperating in general, etc.), then if your matter goes to trial, you have effectively denied the opposing party of “ammo” to use against you.

Furthermore, we often tell people to “let the other party prove your case for you.”  In some circumstances, while it is appropriate to make allegations, seek proof of such and generally play on the offensive, very often, the opposing party can hurt themselves more than you ever can. For example, if your partner has generally exhibited narcissistic behavior, he or she will continue to do so, and the court will see that. If your partner has had a track record of getting the children to school late, chances are that will continue as well. Just remember, two wrongs will never make a right. Do what makes sense for you, and everything will fall into place.

Remember, you don’t have to navigate this challenging situation alone. Seek support from experienced professionals who can guide you through the legal process and help you make informed decisions. Wolf & Shore Law Group is here to help you make your family law matters easier, not harder.  We are realistic and direct with our clients. We encourage potential clients to seek out a firm where they will feel comfortable and confident. Ever argue with a woman? Let Wolf & Shore Law Group go to work for you. Call us at 203.745.3151 or email us at

Very Truly Yours,

Wolf & Shore Law Group

*The situations represented in our Dear Attorneys column are entirely fictional and any resemblance to a specific case is unintentional. We cannot, and will not, offer legal advice to anyone who is not a client. However, if you do have questions or concerns, you should contact an attorney at your convenience.

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