Dear Attorneys,
I’ve been considering divorce, but before making that decision, I wanted to try counseling with my wife. Unfortunately, she is refusing to go. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Ready Eddy
Dear Eddy,
It’s admirable that you want to explore counseling before making such a significant decision. However, one person can’t force the other into therapy if they are unwilling. That said, you still have options.
First, you might consider individual counseling. Even if your wife won’t attend, working with a professional can give you a safe space to process your feelings, gain clarity, and explore coping strategies. This can help you decide whether you want to continue trying to repair the relationship or if moving forward with divorce is the healthier option for you.
Second, it may be helpful to consult with an attorney—even if you’re still undecided. A consultation does not mean you must file for divorce. Instead, it can give you valuable information about your rights, what the process looks like, and what options may be available for you and your family.
Lastly, if you do decide to proceed with divorce, it’s important to remember that Connecticut is a no-fault divorce state. That means you don’t have to prove that your spouse did anything wrong, or that they refused counseling, in order to file. The court will focus more on the equitable distribution of assets, custody arrangements if children are involved, and ensuring both parties can move forward.
Ultimately, whether or not your spouse participates in counseling, you can still take steps to protect your emotional well-being and prepare yourself for the future. At Wolf & Shore Law Group, we offer confidential consultations and help clients just like you navigate this process every day. Ever argue with a woman? Let Wolf & Shore Law Group go to work for you. Call us at 203.745.3151 or email us at info@wolfandshorelaw.com.
Very Truly Yours,
Wolf & Shore Law Group
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